Tuesday, April 7, 2015

Trouble With River Cities

I've been thinking a lot lately about how every single person in the world has a blog. If you see a group of well dressed ladies, chances are at least one of them has a style blog. There's nothing special about seeing some random person wearing clothes on the internet. I realize this. It's over done and at this point, it's kind of boring. Bloggers don't leave comments like they use to. Everyone is trying to "make" it and now it's a competitive rat race of C/O clothes. I think part of this also stems from the over saturation on social media and the idea that bloggers are brands, not people. When bloggers started getting famous and already famous people started style blogs — it all just sorta lost meaning. I still very much enjoy blogging, but I miss the heart and the connection that got us all here in the first place. I've taken a huge step back this Winter from blogging. No formal hiatus, but drastically less than before.

I recently deleted Facebook off my phone and turned off Twitter notifications and it's been the best couple of weeks. Internet detoxes are important for the mind. I'm feeling better about blogging, the internet and the state of my wardrobe. But I also think part of that is the sunshine. Boy, has my soul needed the sun.

This dress is a recent addition to my wardrobe and it's so perfect. I would wear it all day every day if I could.

My sister took these photos. She does not understand "full body" shots and probably hates when I beg her to snap a few shots. But she's a good sport. So thanks, Nicole!

Outfit Details:
Dress: ModCloth via clothing swap
Tights: AA
Cardigan: Anthropologie
Shoes: Payless
Belt: Swapped
16 comments on "Trouble With River Cities"
  1. Oh this is such a cute outfit! I really love the gray tights matched with it. I totally agree I think internet detox periods are so important for everyone. Sometimes the mind just needs a break from it.

  2. Boy, does this ring true on so many levels. I absolutely agree with what you're saying and at times I feel like I'm part of that problem. I've been the recipient of c/o items lately, and while I only pick things/companies that I like, I can see why it changes your feelings on blogging. Sometimes I get stressed out about timelines, contracts, and whether I'm fulfilling my responsibility with that company. It makes me realize that I miss the days when I posted what I want and whenever I wanted to.

    I also think a lot of it has to do with being older, having much more responsibilities than I did a few years ago, and having Bianca. While I still keep up with my favorite blogs, commenting has become a thing of the past. It sucks and I hate that about myself but I've learned I have to live in my own life as much as possible.

    Anyway, sorry for the long comment but this post definitely gave me the feels. I love this dress on you and I hope I get to see it again. That full skirt is fantastic!

  3. I've only been blogging for four years and I can say that I totally agree with you on that front. I know that I came in sort of "late to the game" but I still consider my blog just a hobby and know that I will never be Kendi or eat.sleep.wear. status. And I am fine with that. But I have noticed a drastic difference in amounts of comments and not because I am trying to reach 100 comments per post but there was a lot more connection when I started. Now, it is a lot more about working with brands, reaching a certain number of followers and getting special invites. It's exhausting. I have appreciated your blog very much and I am glad that you are still blogging. I do actually really like social media, but one of my resolutions for this year is to take a social media break just to clear my head.

  4. I think you're right that it does feel like everyone's competing with each other, and it's easy to find yourself tied up in thinking you're not good enough if a blog that started the same time as yours got some opportunity you didn't. It's a really unhealthy way to think about something that is a hobby for the majority of us! I find myself needing to take a step back now and then too and I really, really appreciate the comments from people who've followed me along the way and clearly understand who's writing the blog, not just what I'm wearing! And then everything feels better again - the fact I've made some genuine online friends with the same interests as me is what makes blogging so amazing in the first place, after all!

    Anyway, I LOVE this outfit - the subtle colours and girliness of it are just lovely. I smiled when I read the bit about your sister not getting 'full body' shots - in my house we call them 'full lengths' and I think my photographer feels pretty similar ;)

    CC x

  5. Authenticity is definitely top priority on my blog reading list. And I try not to think of the Interwebz as a contest. We're all in this together, amirite?

    I'm still a pretty new blogger, but at first I would comment on as many blogs as possible to learn about others, get my name out there, get some fresh ideas. With a full-time job, hobbies, chores at home, etc. it just wasn't a sustainable model. Now back from an unintended hiatus, I'm just trying to focus on blogs I truly love reading. (You being one of them, of course -- I read your blog for awhile before I made my own.)

    I definitely can understand being jaded on blogging, fashion blogging in particular. In refocusing, I'm trying to make my blog an extension of myself, more lifestyle and hobby-based, rather than establishing brand, page hits and retweets. (Although those things do help with morale.) And to be realistic about how often I post. There's only so much time.

    Sorry about the essay. I think your feelings resonate with a lot of people who've tried blogging. There are many fashion blogs out there, but your unique style, fun pairings, and dare I say, musings (ha), have kept me coming back for the last few years. :) Hoping you stick with it, grrrl.

  6. Ah man, the good ole days of blogging are long ago, aren't they? Your thoughts echo what's been at the back of my mind for a while now. It's so true, blogging isn't such a rare thing anymore and it's been taken advantage of by so many people.
    I wish we could rewind time to when it was mostly genuine and not filled with these ludicrous spawn of "Gotta make it big as a blogger!" people who just copy and paste what's basically spam into your comment box...

    Anyway, cheers to internet detox! I'm going to have to do that...aha, I've been so bad about that. I don't think I could delete Instagram off my phone though. I'm an addict 0_o

    And yes, we all needed some sunshine! Love this dress you're wearing, it's so lovely <3

    The Dragonfruit Diaries

  7. I love everything about this outfit. And I totally hear you on the nature of blogging now. <3

  8. I'm with you on the way things have changed over time when it comes to blogging. I only really read a few style blogs anymore and my own blog has transformed into a catch-all, more of a lifestyle blog I guess. I don't mind the c/o stuff as long as I can tell the blogger is still keeping their authentic voice/honest opinions/true style. But as for competition - I'm over it. I've owned a domain and have been "blogging" since I was 14 years old and I've never figured out the magic to "make it big" on the internet. I doubt it's going to happen now. ;)

    And my soul has really needed the sun as well. It's finally warming up around here, thank goodness!

    That dress is gorgeous. :) I can't wait to be a normal size again and to finally reconstruct my wardrobe - I want to get back into style blogging! I've definitely lost my style and I miss it.

  9. Man I got rid of all my social media (except insta bc I like taking pics of food and using filters on them lol) a year ago, and I plan on never going back!! I figured, if someone needs to get in touch with me, they can fucking call me! And screw everyone else who doesn't have my number, good riddance. My world is small and filled with people I actually want in my life :)

  10. Wow- that dress has got to twirl like a beauty! What a lovely, full skirt.

    Since I've been so focused on my own schooling and getting a new job, I haven't noticed/come across many new bloggers, but I've definitely noticed an overall lack of connection and communication on blogs (heck, that's why this post is so nice. People are commenting on it)! Things seem much more passively consumed, rather than people interacting with one another on many blogs. The less-twitter-and-facebook idea sounds nice. ;)

  11. You are sooo right. For this very reason, I never had a FB page or twitter for my blog, it would be too much. Also, I have less posts per week now. I sometimes find it sad to see blogs that so desperately try to become famous, but who am I to judge - each to their own!


  12. This is so true. I definitely having been missing that connection lately, and feel so happy for the people that are still around and commenting because the friendships are the best part! I haven't come to the point where I'm ready to quit yet, but have definitely done some reevaluating! I love your backdrop- it has an iridescent look to it!

  13. Totally feel ya. I still of course have fun getting dressed and am not completely over it yet, but it has become way more forced. The worst part for me has been that I feel like I keep on trying to keep up with it, but I do not get the comments/ community/ feedback like I used to. So, I am trying to start being better with that part of it again myself!
    I love the dress, and of course the floral crown!
    xo Hannah

    The Braided Bandit BLOG
    The Braided Bandit SHOP

  14. I can relate to basically everything you said here.... I literally never get on FB to see whats going on in the world. I only get on there to post images that relate to my small crochet business or my blog. Everytime I get on there I want to delete or block almost everyone I know. Ha ha! It's really not good for your mind or soul. It is a crazy rat race and the most important thing is to be happy with you and what you're doing in life. I don't tweet at all and really don't even know why anyone would want to know what someone is doing 24/7. I say "Good for you!". On a side note... I do love this dress and it's a great addition to your closet for Spring and Summer.

  15. A few months back a Facebook friend of mine couldn't believe that people could be "YouTube famous" but it made me think of how crazy it is that people can get blog famous. Well, really it's like you can't do anything these days without the chance for it to become so much more than you intended it to be.

    It's both a blessing and a curse to have a small following on social media. On one hand I won't be able to retire off of blog money but on the other hand, I'm happy to be sharing my life for a few people that actually find it interesting. (And somehow people find it interesting???)

    This is unrelated but your sister actually did great at capturing your sweet outfit! I know how it is handing your camera to a family member - they suddenly act like they don't know how to take a picture and have never seen a picture of a person to reference. What is up with that?!

    -Hannah | The Outfit Repeater

  16. I'm definitely guilty of not blog-networking and commenting as much as I'd like to. I remember when I first started blogging, I would blog almost everyday and then spend a few hours DAILY commenting and reading other blogs. That seems like a lifetime ago, haha. I think the problem is, people like me who really want to keep blogging (even though they have a hard time fitting it in) just barely get a blog post up let alone read other blogs. When really, if you have to not post for a day and spend that time catching up on other blogs it would be worth it! It really comes down to time management and organization.. something I've never been good at. Now if Eden would just play independently so I could read more blogs.. haha. -♥- Rachel (For the Birds)


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